I’m somewhat surprised at the hot rod magnet that is Prop 8, that I can still browse the news today and why hello, it’s still there. I probably shouldn’t be; when you pressure people into a corner and say ‘no’ to what they deem as a basic human right, oh how impassioned they become. “A cornered fox is more dangerous than a jackal,” yes?
What stands out more to me than this debate (aside from it being a classic case of the frustratingly inane “You’re either with us or against us” mantra) is the sheer amount of money lobbied during its campaign. I don’t recall the exact figure, but it was well in the tens of millions of dollars.
Aside from the fundamental ‘duh’ that is campaigns costing money, both sides have justifications for the money they willingly donated to the cause (with some now trying to block a list of donors from being released). Among them, there is no price tag on fighting for a basic human right that is being consciously denied to us. I suppose their counterparts think the same in reverse: how much is it worth to preserve a longstanding tradition and belief, and prevent one special interest group from changing society? Easy. Mastercard cue please.
It got me thinking. If I were in either group’s shoes (and apparently you must be in one), I wonder how much money I would be willing to fork over.
And in almost all cases, the answer is–zero.
As a Chinese American, there are a slew of rights you could deny to me. Yet to be honest, I still wouldn’t donate to any cause fighting for my rights, not because I don’t believe in them or want them, but because if I had the money where I could donate to a cause, I believe there are more important things the world needs.
If President Obama enacted a law tomorrow that said all persons of Chinese descent can no longer marry outside of their ethnicity, I would voice my opposition, yes, probably even take to the streets to protests, but no I would not donate to a campaign that would try to overturn it. I cannot bring myself to give money to something like this when people down the street from me don’t even have money to eat. Who cares if I can’t legally marry the person I love? If the law were a reality I could still forever commit myself to the life of the one I loved, legal papers be damned. There are so many pressing things my money can go to: AIDS. Poverty. Global warming if you believe in it. Getting people clean water.
Of course, the exception is this. If a government enacted a rule that deprived you of something more fundamental than marriage, something like food, I would absolutely be up in arms and my wallet open. But sustenance marriage is not, and while it’s easy for me to say, a monetarily worthwhile cause this is not.
The same is true, even more so, of the opposition. Is keeping a longstanding tradition, and only in nominal terms mind you, really priceless? Was it worth the tens of millions spent?
I could never look a starving kid in the eye, and still say yes; let alone every say ‘priceless.’